But a few qualities sealed the deal for Lala. “His favorite animal was a lion,” she continued. “The song that he chose as his favorite and the poem both had to do with the ocean.”
As for the donor’s physical appearance, the Cryobank only provided her with childhood images—something she was totally on board with.
“My biggest thing is I don’t want to see adult pictures,” the 33-year-old explained. “That makes it much too real, much too personal. Sure, I can look at them as a little kid, that’s cute.”
However, she want the donor to look aesthetically similar to her and Ocean. “I just wanted to eliminate any sort of toughness for them,” she added, “because the world is already tough when you come from a totally normal family.”
And, yes, Lala has made Ocean aware she’s going to be a big sister.
“I didn’t really tell her in some big way,” Lala said. “She wanted to sit on me and I was like, ‘You have to be really careful because mom has a baby in her belly.’ And she goes, ‘Mommy has a baby in her belly?’ I say ‘yeah’ and she says ‘lemme see!'”